Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

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Podcast by Adam Alvarez; Pris Alvarez

Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Welcome to the wild, honest, and hilarious world of Beyond Monogamy—a podcast where longtime lifestyle couple Adam & Pris spill the tea (and sometimes the lube) on all things ethical non-monogamy. From hotwife adventures and swinger fails to polyamorous growing pains and everything in between, no topic is too taboo and no story is off-limits. Whether you're a seasoned swinger, lifestyle-curious, or just here for the juicy stories—you're in the right bed… we mean, place. Expect real talk, lots of laughs, and candid conversations about sex, relationships, parenting, judgment, and finding connection beyond traditional monogamy. 🛏️ New episodes drop every Sunday and Wednesday. 🎥 Now with video! Watch on YouTube or visit www.beyond-monogamy.com

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03 September 2025

Quickie Confessions: Our First Time, Fumbles, and Lessons Learned

✨ Beyond Monogamy — Episode Summary & Show Notes

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🎙️ Episode Summary

In this week’s episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive deep into the world of ethical non-monogamy, swinging, polyamory, and everything in between. We talk real stories, messy moments, and the kind of raw honesty you won’t find anywhere else. If you’ve ever wondered what it’s actually like to navigate relationships beyond traditional monogamy, this episode is packed with insights, laughs, and a few surprises.

Whether you’re a seasoned swinger, exploring polyamory, or just curious about ENM (ethical non-monogamy), we break down the lifestyle in a way that’s both relatable and real.

📌 Show Notes

  • Topics covered: consent, communication, jealousy, swinging etiquette, and the unglamorous truths of the lifestyle.

  • Why listen? This isn’t a “highlight reel”—it’s the authentic ups, downs, and everything in between that make non-monogamy real.

  • SEO keywords woven in: swinging podcast, ethical non-monogamy, polyamory relationships, ENM community, lifestyle couples, consensual non-monogamy stories.

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31 August 2025

Hook, Line, and Lie: When Catfish Swim into the Lifestyle

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💻 Episode Summary

This week on Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we’re diving into a topic that every swinger, poly couple, and ethically non-monogamous adventurer should have on their radar: catfishing in the lifestyle.

No, not fishing in swamps or noodling in muddy rivers—we’re talking about people pretending to be someone they’re not online, sliding into lifestyle spaces with fake photos, shady profiles, and sometimes even predatory intentions.

From AOL chatrooms and puppy-love disasters to today’s TikTok scammers asking Adam for $45 nail money (yes, that happened), we unpack decades of personal stories, listener anecdotes, and lifestyle lessons. We break down:

  • 🎭 The Types of Catfish:
    – Filter fiends & “20-year-old” photos
    – Fake couples (ahem… actually just one lonely guy)
    – Profiles with pro-model shots only
    – “I swear my partner knows!”… when they don’t
    – The scammers fishing for your nudes (and why we don’t trade pics unless you’re real)

  • 🚩 Red Flags to Watch For:
    – No face pics
    – Always “too busy” to meet or video chat
    – Overeager for nudes or instant hookups
    – Stories that just don’t add up

  • 💔 The Fallout:
    – Emotional letdowns & wasted time
    – Safety concerns, especially for women
    – Erosion of trust in lifestyle communities
    – Why a single lie makes people wonder, “What else are they hiding?”

  • 🛡️ Protect Yourself:
    – Video verify (FaceTime, Messenger, Zoom—anything live)
    – Meet first at lifestyle clubs or trusted meet & greets
    – Cross-reference profiles on sites like SDC, SLS, Kasidie
    – Build a trusted network who can vouch for people
    – And above all—trust your gut. If it feels off, it probably is.

Through all the laughs and real talk, Adam and Pris remind us that the lifestyle is built on trust, consent, and honesty. Without that, the sexy adventures we love lose their magic.

🔥 Key Takeaway

Catfishing isn’t just annoying—it can be unsafe. Protect yourself, protect your community, and keep the fun alive by staying vigilant and unapologetically real.

📣 Join the Conversation

We want YOUR stories! Have you ever been catfished in the lifestyle? Drop us a voicemail, send a message, or hit us up on our socials. We might even feature your story in a future QUICKIE episode.

📺 Where to Listen & Watch

Catch Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris everywhere podcasts stream:

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27 August 2025

QUICKIE: Cum Talk – Love It, Hate It, or Wipe It Off?

In this spicy QUICKIE, Adam and Pris dive into one of the stickiest topics in sex and the lifestyle: cum. From facials to cream pies, swallowing to spitting, they explore what men and women really feel about it — the turn-ons, the turn-offs, and the unspoken rules around consent. They share their own stories, laugh at awkward encounters, and break down why porn sets up unrealistic expectations. They also touch on lifestyle etiquette, the psychology of cum play, and how diet and habits affect taste. As always, it’s raw, unfiltered, and hilariously real.

✍️ Show Notes (SEO-Heavy)

Title: QUICKIE: Cum Talk – Love It, Hate It, or Wipe It Off?

Description:
In this week’s QUICKIE, Adam & Pris get messy (literally) with a raw and funny conversation about cum. Why do some love it while others hate it? Is swallowing a turn-on or a dealbreaker? What role does diet play in taste? And how does cum play fit into the swinger lifestyle with all its rules, boundaries, and safety concerns?

From embarrassing stories and personal kinks to the psychology of facials and cream pies, this episode is all about opening up the conversation — sticky jokes included.

You’ll Hear About:

  • Why porn creates unrealistic cum expectations

  • Swallowing vs. spitting (and why consent always matters)

  • The psychology behind facials and cream pies

  • Cum rules in the swinger lifestyle

  • How diet, hydration, and habits affect taste

  • Turn-ons, turn-offs, and awkward cum moments

Links & Info:
👉 Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Pandora, iHeartRadio, and YouTube
👉 Streaming every Thursday at 1 PM & 6 PM CST on Full Swap Radio
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24 August 2025

Love, Lust, and Lifestyle: Paul Keable Joins Beyond Monogamy

In this week’s episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Paul Keable, Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, the world’s #1 married dating app with over 85 million members worldwide. Far from being just a platform for secret liaisons, Ashley Madison has become a fascinating case study in how technology, desire, and changing social norms are reshaping conversations around non-monogamy, intimacy, and discretion.

Paul shares insider insights on why people seek out alternative relationship styles, what their massive trove of real-world data reveals about the future of monogamy, and how 20% of members now identify as “disclosed non-monogamous”—meaning their partners are aware of, or even participate in, their activity on the site.

We dive into cultural shifts, surprising academic studies (like research showing 80% of women on the platform are in sexless or orgasm-less marriages, while men often join seeking emotional validation), and the myths that mainstream society gets wrong about ethical non-monogamy.

And yes, we also got some juicy behind-the-scenes details—like why France is Ashley Madison’s weakest market (because infidelity is already culturally normalized!) and the story of Bobby Goldman, aka The Curvy Widow, who turned her Ashley Madison adventures into an off-Broadway play.

Whether you’re curious about the lifestyle, actively practicing ethical non-monogamy, or just fascinated by the psychology of relationships, this episode peels back the stereotypes and gives you an inside look at how monogamy and non-monogamy are evolving in 2025 and beyond.

📌 Show Notes & Key Takeaways

  • Guest: Paul Keable, Chief Strategy Officer, Ashley Madison

  • Ashley Madison Facts:

    • 🌎 85+ million members worldwide

    • 📊 Roughly 1.13 active women for every 1 active paid man account (yes, women are there!)

    • 🔐 Features include private photo lockers, stealth mode, and discretion tools to protect user privacy

    • 💡 Fun fact: Ashley Madison has even been parodied on The Simpsons, proving its cultural impact

  • Hot Topics Discussed:

    • Why monogamy shouldn’t always be the default

    • How women often lead the transition into non-monogamy

    • The “One Penis Policy” red flag in lifestyle dynamics

    • Why toys aren’t competition—they’re allies

    • How better communication = stronger relationships, monogamous or not

  • Memorable Quote: “When monogamy becomes monotony.” – Paul Keable

🔗 Connect With Us

👉 Website: www.beyond-monogamy.com
👉 YouTube: @BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris
👉 Instagram: @beyond_monogamy_4u
👉 TikTok: @beyond.monogamy & @adam&beyond
👉 X (Twitter): @beyomono
👉 Facebook: Beyond Monogamy
👉 Reddit: r/beyond_monogamy
👉 Full Swap Radio: Catch us every Thursday at 1 PM & 6 PM CST on FullSwapRadio.com

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If you loved this episode, please take a moment to like, subscribe, share, and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen. Reviews help us grow and reach more open-minded people like you—and if your review makes us laugh or smile, we might just read it on a future show!

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20 August 2025

QUICKIE: Lifestyle Stereotypes — Truth or Total BS?

In this week’s Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE, Adam & Pris break down the most popular swinger stereotypes — testing each one to see if it’s truth… or total BS. From pineapples and hot tubs to midlife crises and “porno-sized Johnsons,” nothing was off-limits in this hilarious 30-minute myth-busting ride.

🕒 Episode Timeline Highlights

[00:02] – The “All Swingers Are Hot” Myth
Adam & Pris admit they once thought swingers were all gym-bodied models. Reality check? Swingers come in all shapes, sizes, and vibes. Ads and social media only show the “highlight reel.” Real life = regular people who just happen to be into consensual non-monogamy.

[00:05] – Swinging = Cheating?
Nope! Swinging is built on consent and honesty, not sneaking around. Pris shares how people back home used to tell her to “just cheat” instead of being openly poly. Spoiler: that’s not how ethical non-monogamy works.

[00:07] – Orgies Everywhere?
The stereotype says swinger parties are non-stop sex. Reality? Many parties are more drinks than dicks. Some are social, some are DTF, but not every event turns into a late-night orgy fest.

[00:09] – Jealousy Doesn’t Exist?
Pris calls herself “territorial, not jealous,” while Adam confesses he gets a little turned on when other people want Pris. Bottom line: jealousy happens — it’s human nature. Communication keeps it from blowing up.

[00:11] – Only People in Their 20s Do It
Big myth. Most community members are in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. Twentysomethings may play on apps or college parties, but real community and connection usually grow later.

[00:14] – Midlife Crisis Stereotype
Swinging isn’t just about “key parties for suburban boomers.” Sure, some discover it later in life, but Adam & Pris argue it’s more about freedom, empty-nest energy, and exploring fantasies — not a “crisis.”

[00:17] – The Pineapple Obsession
Ah yes, the iconic upside-down pineapple. It is everywhere, but not everyone rocking one is in the lifestyle. Some folks are just really into tropical fruit or… hospitality tattoos.

[00:20] – Always DTF, All the Time?
Nope. Swingers aren’t horny robots. Most prefer conversation, connection, and consent over “let’s bang strangers immediately.”

[00:22] – No Boundaries?
Swingers may actually have more boundaries than the “vanilla” world. From soft swap rules to consent culture, boundaries are what make it work.

[00:23] – It’s Just White, Middle-Class Couples
False. Adam & Pris (both Hispanic) point out how diverse lifestyle communities really are.

[00:25] – Everyone Is Bi
Not true. Some are, some aren’t. And no, two men and a woman in a threesome doesn’t automatically mean the guys are gay. Inside the lifestyle, the “all women are bi” stereotype is also exaggerated.

[00:27] – Swingers Only Club & Party
Sure, some love it, but many are just as happy brunching, binging Netflix, or chilling with lifestyle friends. Not every weekend ends with strobe lights and a playroom.

[00:28-30] – Funny Extras & Inside Jokes

  • All swingers own hot tubs (if only).

  • Black silicone wedding bands = swinger “flag” (or maybe just gym wear).

  • All men are porn-star sized (false).

  • Eye contact = “I want you” (false, sometimes you’re just listening).

  • “Practice makes perfect” → Maybe swingers are better lovers? Adam & Pris lean toward yes.

😂 Examples of Stereotypes

From Outside the Lifestyle:

  • Swinging = cheating.

  • Everyone’s bisexual.

  • Swingers are all white, rich, and midlife crisis couples.

  • Every party = giant orgy.

From Inside the Lifestyle:

  • The “real unicorn” is a straight woman.

  • Black wedding rings, pineapple tattoos, or hot tubs = guaranteed swinger.

  • All lifestyle men have mustaches (really?).

  • “Practice makes perfect” — swingers are assumed to be expert lovers.

🔑 Takeaway

Most stereotypes are laughable at best and damaging at worst. The lifestyle is as diverse and unique as the people in it. It’s not about fitting a pineapple-shaped mold — it’s about honesty, fun, and writing your own story.

📢 Get Connected

Catch Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris every Thursday at 1 PM and 6 PM CST on FullSwapRadio.com.

👉 Website: www.beyond-monogamy.com
👉 Facebook: facebook.com/beyondmonogamy4u
👉 Instagram: @beyond_monogamy_4u
👉 TikTok: @beyond.monogamy (Pris) & @adam&beyond (Adam)
👉 X (Twitter): @beyomono
👉 Reddit: r/beyond_monogamy
👉 YouTube: @BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris

💬 Like, share, subscribe, and drop us a review anywhere you listen — or leave us a voice message straight from our website. Your support helps us keep busting myths (and maybe a few bedsprings along the way).

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17 August 2025

When the Big "O" Doesn’t Happen: How It Feels on Both Sides

What happens when the orgasm just… doesn’t show up? In this week’s episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive deep into the world of orgasms (and the lack thereof). From the awkwardness of faking it, to the insecurities people face when their partner can’t “finish,” to the myths surrounding male and female orgasms — nothing is off limits.

Adam and Pris get personal, funny, and brutally honest about their own experiences in the swinging lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy. They share stories of performance anxiety, distractions, delayed ejaculation, women who take a long time (or never) to orgasm, and the mental tricks that can get in the way of the Big O. Plus, they bust through common myths like:

  • “Men always finish.”

  • “If he doesn’t orgasm, he’s not attracted to me.”

  • “Women orgasm easily during penetration.”

  • “Toys mean I’m not enough.”

  • “If it didn’t end in orgasm, it was bad sex.”

This episode isn’t just about sex mechanics — it’s about shifting perspective, communication, and celebrating pleasure in all its forms (with or without the finish line).

Episode Highlights with Timestamps

  • [00:02:00] Adam shares a recent play experience where a partner admitted she rarely orgasms — and why communication made the moment better.

  • [00:04:00] Pris reveals how few partners have been able to make her orgasm, and the shift she made in openly sharing what works for her.

  • [00:07:00] The story of a “gold star lesbian” partner and Pris faking it… until she didn’t.

  • [00:09:30] Adam admits how distractions, stress, and even clocks in the room have blocked his ability to finish.

  • [00:12:00] The impact of alcohol, drugs, and overstimulation on men’s ability to orgasm.

  • [00:16:00] Myth-busting: “Men always finish” and the pressure behind it.

  • [00:18:00] Myth-busting: “If he doesn’t finish, he’s not attracted to me.”

  • [00:23:00] Adam’s story about lasting for hours at 19 and how cultural myths about “lasting forever” shaped his views.

  • [00:26:00] Myth-busting: “If she doesn’t orgasm, I failed as a lover.”

  • [00:28:00] Discussion on toys: helpers, not competitors.

  • [00:34:00] Squirting ≠ orgasm — important distinctions.

  • [00:38:00] Adam on the insecurity of thinking women only wanted Pris, not him.

  • [00:45:00] Locker room talk, cultural machismo, and how bragging about “orgasms achieved” feeds insecurity.

  • [00:50:00] The psychology of orgasm, fantasies, and why some men come quicker with new partners.

  • [00:53:00] How shifting perception from “must orgasm” to “enjoy the ride” changes everything.

  • [00:57:00] Call to listeners: Share your “when the Big O didn’t happen” stories for a future QUICKIE episode.

Show Notes

Welcome to another wild and real conversation on Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris. In this episode, When the Big O Doesn’t Happen, we tackle one of the most common, yet rarely talked about, experiences in sex: what happens when someone can’t finish.

👉 We discuss performance anxiety, pressure, myths, insecurities, swinging lifestyle dynamics, and how to shift focus toward connection and pleasure instead of just chasing orgasms.

👉 Whether you’re exploring the swinger lifestyle, polyamory, or ethical non-monogamy, this episode offers laughs, relatability, and some practical reassurance that you’re not alone when the Big O doesn’t make an appearance.

Where to Listen & Connect

✨ Website: www.beyond-monogamy.com
✨ Full Swap Radio: Catch us streaming every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM CST on FullSwapRadio.com
✨ YouTube: @BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris — don’t forget to subscribe (help Adam get his plaque 👀)
✨ Facebook: Beyond Monogamy 4U
✨ Instagram: @beyond_monogamy_4u
✨ X (Twitter): @beyomono
✨ TikTok: @beyond.monogamy (Pris) | @adam&beyond (Adam)
✨ Reddit: r/beyond_monogamy

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💬 We want your stories! Have you ever been in a situation where the Big O didn’t happen? Send us your story at www.beyond-monogamy.com or leave us a voicemail. We may feature you in a future QUICKIE episode!

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