Adam Alvarez; Pris Alvarez
19 November 2025
36m 53s
QUICKIE: Mental Health & The Lifestyle
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36:53
Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
Mental Health & The Lifestyle: Depression, Anxiety, Jealousy & the Parts Nobody Talks About
In this week's Beyond Monogamy Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris crack open a conversation most lifestyle folks avoid: mental health. From depression that hides behind humor, to feeling unwanted in LS spaces, to the pressure of always "being on" because of content creation, this episode gets raw, honest, and deeply needed.
Adam opens up about a form of depression that doesn't look like the stereotypical "can't get out of bed" kind — it looks more like working nonstop, smiling through the storm, and masking with jokes. Pris shares the emotional weight of their poly years, what she kept inside, how depression silently grew, and how finally being honest helped her breathe again.
Together, they break down the emotional side of non-monogamy that impacts self-worth, jealousy, compersion, body image, performance anxiety, rejection, and confidence in the lifestyle. If you've ever felt overwhelmed in the lifestyle… if you've ever questioned your worth… if you've ever smiled on the outside while drowning inside… this one's for you.
💬 Episode Focus: Mental Health & The Lifestyle
In this candid, heartfelt QUICKIE, Adam & Pris dive into the mental and emotional side of ethical non-monogamy and swinging:
- Why mental health struggles are common but rarely talked about in the lifestyle
- What happens when one partner is "more into it" than the other, and depression quietly builds under the surface
- The emotional weight of their poly years and what hiding feelings did to Pris's mental health
- The heavy feeling of not feeling wanted or noticed at lifestyle events and clubs
- How the lifestyle can sometimes feel like high school all over again — cliques, comparison, and insecurity
- How rejection and "you're not my type" moments hit self-esteem and confidence
- The pressure of being "on" all the time when you're known for your podcast and content
- Adam's personal experience with depression that hides behind humor, productivity, and obsession with work
- Why communication is absolutely crucial when jealousy, compersion, and insecurity show up
- How mental health and sexual health are deeply connected — and why it's hard to perform when your brain is overloaded
- Why it's okay (and healthy) to pause, reset, or step back from the lifestyle when life starts "lifing"
The main takeaway? Protect your peace as much as you protect your parts. The lifestyle can be fun as hell, but only if your mind is in a good place while you're living it.
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💌 Need Support or Someone to Talk To?
If this episode hit close to home and you're struggling with depression, anxiety, jealousy, or feeling unwanted in the lifestyle, please know:
- You're not weird. You're not broken. You're human.
- Your mental health matters just as much as your sexual exploration.
- It's okay to step back, slow down, or hit pause when life gets heavy.
You can:
- Submit an anonymous story or question through our Confessional on the website.
- Reach out privately through our contact form or DMs on social media.
- Share this episode with a partner or friend if you don't know how to start the conversation.
We can't be your therapists, but we can be your people — a couple who gets it, who's been through it, and who is willing to talk about the stuff most lifestyle conversations skip.
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