Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

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Adam Alvarez; Pris Alvarez

31 August 2025

59m 55s

Hook, Line, and Lie: When Catfish Swim into the Lifestyle

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💻 Episode Summary

This week on Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we’re diving into a topic that every swinger, poly couple, and ethically non-monogamous adventurer should have on their radar: catfishing in the lifestyle.

No, not fishing in swamps or noodling in muddy rivers—we’re talking about people pretending to be someone they’re not online, sliding into lifestyle spaces with fake photos, shady profiles, and sometimes even predatory intentions.

From AOL chatrooms and puppy-love disasters to today’s TikTok scammers asking Adam for $45 nail money (yes, that happened), we unpack decades of personal stories, listener anecdotes, and lifestyle lessons. We break down:

  • 🎭 The Types of Catfish:
    – Filter fiends & “20-year-old” photos
    – Fake couples (ahem… actually just one lonely guy)
    – Profiles with pro-model shots only
    – “I swear my partner knows!”… when they don’t
    – The scammers fishing for your nudes (and why we don’t trade pics unless you’re real)

  • 🚩 Red Flags to Watch For:
    – No face pics
    – Always “too busy” to meet or video chat
    – Overeager for nudes or instant hookups
    – Stories that just don’t add up

  • 💔 The Fallout:
    – Emotional letdowns & wasted time
    – Safety concerns, especially for women
    – Erosion of trust in lifestyle communities
    – Why a single lie makes people wonder, “What else are they hiding?”

  • 🛡️ Protect Yourself:
    – Video verify (FaceTime, Messenger, Zoom—anything live)
    – Meet first at lifestyle clubs or trusted meet & greets
    – Cross-reference profiles on sites like SDC, SLS, Kasidie
    – Build a trusted network who can vouch for people
    – And above all—trust your gut. If it feels off, it probably is.

Through all the laughs and real talk, Adam and Pris remind us that the lifestyle is built on trust, consent, and honesty. Without that, the sexy adventures we love lose their magic.

🔥 Key Takeaway

Catfishing isn’t just annoying—it can be unsafe. Protect yourself, protect your community, and keep the fun alive by staying vigilant and unapologetically real.

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