Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

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Podcast by Adam Alvarez; Pris Alvarez

Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Welcome to the wild, honest, and hilarious world of Beyond Monogamy—a podcast where longtime lifestyle couple Adam & Pris spill the tea (and sometimes the lube) on all things ethical non-monogamy. From hotwife adventures and swinger fails to polyamorous growing pains and everything in between, no topic is too taboo and no story is off-limits. Whether you're a seasoned swinger, lifestyle-curious, or just here for the juicy stories—you're in the right bed… we mean, place. Expect real talk, lots of laughs, and candid conversations about sex, relationships, parenting, judgment, and finding connection beyond traditional monogamy. 🛏️ New episodes drop every Sunday and Wednesday. 🎥 Now with video! Watch on YouTube or visit www.beyond-monogamy.com

Latest episodes

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05 November 2025

Lifestyle Events 101: How to Survive (and Thrive) at Your First Swinger Party

Quickie Episode • Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Lifecycle Events 101: How to Survive (and Thrive) at Your First Swinger Party

First link (all details & tickets): See Our Events Calendar

Episode Summary

Nervous about your first lifestyle event? We've got you. In this Quickie, Adam & Pris get real about first-timer anxiety, how to find the right events, what to expect once you're there, and simple ways to meet people without feeling overwhelmed. We also share details for two big meetups: our November 8th Meet & Greet at Forbidden Fruit (Austin) and the December 5–7 Naughty & Nice Hotel Takeover in San Antonio, where we'll host a live Beyond Monogamy show with audience Q&A.

Come Hang With Us — Upcoming Events

➡️ Full Events Page (dates, times, maps, updates)

📍 Saturday, November 8 — Meet & Greet @ Forbidden Fruit (Austin, TX)

  • Time: 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM (we may stay later if it's poppin')
  • Where: Inside Forbidden Fruit (Austin's oldest locally owned adult boutique; block-party vibes with neighboring local shops)
  • What's happening: Photos, lives, light Q&A, merch, and meet-the-hosts energy
  • Parking tip: It's tight—street or neighborhood parking recommended. Worth the walk!

Full address, updates, and reminders are on our Events Page.

🎄 December 5–7 — Naughty & Nice Hotel Takeover (San Antonio, TX)

  • Weekend takeover: Lifestyle community, day events, and night parties
  • We're performing: A live Beyond Monogamy podcast + audience Q&A (seating + mic setup on site)
  • Heads-up: Rooms are moving fast—see the Events Page for info & booking details

Traveling in to see us? Tell us you're coming—we love meeting out-of-towners.

How to Find Lifestyle Events

  • Check vetted platforms like SDC and Kasidie for party & meet-and-greet listings.
  • Local Facebook communities (often invite-only)—meet people at clubs and ask for a group invite.
  • At meet-and-greets, introduce yourself to the host or a connector; start with one person, let them introduce you onward.

First-Timer Tips (Real Talk)

  • It's normal to be nervous—your first event is the hardest; it gets easier fast.
  • Have a drink if you want, but avoid overdoing it—staying aware keeps you safe and confident.
  • Safety first: watch your surroundings, stick together, and honor consent like it's sacred.

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Enjoyed the episode? Please like, subscribe, share, and leave a review—this helps the community find us and keeps the conversations.

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02 November 2025

Jealousy, Labels & Latino Love: Psychologist Jaime Gama on Ethical Non-Monogamy, Swinging vs. Poly, & Building Community

In this powerful and refreshingly funny conversation, Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris sits down with psychologist, Gestalt therapist, creator of Gotitas de Poliamor, and author Jaime Gama to unpack what it really takes to thrive in ethical non-monogamy. We dive into jealousy vs. compersion, swinging vs. polyamory, boundaries, Latin culture, and unlearning shame—mixing research-backed wisdom with real-life stories.

CTA: If you enjoyed this episode, please like, subscribe, share, and leave a review on whatever platform you listen on—it seriously helps the community grow!

Meet Us IRL: We'll be at Forbidden Fruit (Austin) on November 8—come say hi and join our live Q&A session!

Show Notes

Key Topics

  • How labels help—when they're guides, not molds
  • Swinging vs. Polyamory: sex-forward vs. romance-forward dynamics
  • Jealousy isn't the villain: safety, communication, and growth
  • Latin culture, masculinity, shame, and sexual autonomy
  • Consent, agency, honesty & compassion as relationship pillars
  • Why community is the #1 unlock for sustainable ENM

About Our Guest

Jaime Gama is a psychologist and Gestalt therapist, international educator on ethical non-monogamy, and author of Si te duele, ahí no es. He leads workshops, writes, and creates hugely popular content that makes complex relationship ideas practical and accessible.
Website: www.gotitasdepoliamor.com

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How You Can Help

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Come Hang With Us

Forbidden Fruit (Austin) — November 8
Meet-and-greet + listener Q&A. Can't wait to see you there!

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29 October 2025

QUICKIE: Spotted! When Your Vanilla Life Crashes the Lifestyle

Spotted! When Your Vanilla Life Crashes the Lifestyle

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Sometimes you're vibing at a lifestyle club—lights low, bodies moving, drinks flowing—and boom… someone from your vanilla life walks in. Your coworker. A family friend. Someone from the PTA. 😳 Now what?

In today's Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris break down exactly what happens when you get SPOTTED in the wild… and how to turn that panic moment into a confident lifestyle win. From awkward introductions to "keep your eyes up" territory, this episode shares a real-life run-in that ended up being surprisingly great.

What You'll Learn

  • The #1 newbie fear: "What if I run into someone I know?!"—and how to handle it
  • Consent, discretion, and reading the room when worlds collide
  • When not to approach someone—and why
  • Why being open can feel freeing (and build real community)
  • Turning "oh no" into "we're good" without the drama

Listen & Support

Subscribe on your favorite platform, tap LIKE, SHARE with a friend, and please leave a REVIEW. It takes seconds and massively boosts the show in search and recommendations.

Everything in One Place

Episodes • Events • Confessional • Merch • Socials:

www.beyond-monogamy.com

Episode Keywords

ethical non-monogamy, ENM, swinging, lifestyle clubs, getting spotted in the lifestyle, discretion and consent, open relationships, Beyond Monogamy podcast

Thanks for listening! If this helped you breathe easier about "getting spotted," share it with a friend who needs it.

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26 October 2025

Transforming Love: Jessica Fern & David Cooley on Shame, Attachment & Polywise Relationships

Jessica Fern & David Cooley on Attachment, Resentment & Rewriting the Rules of Non-Monogamy

Guests: Jessica Fern (author of Polysecure, Polywise, and Transforming the Shame Triangle) and David Cooley (restorative-justice facilitator, creator of Restorative Relationship Conversations).

Episode Summary

In this heart-to-heart, Adam & Pris sit down with Jessica Fern and David Cooley to go deeper than "What is polyamory?" They unpack attachment styles, why resentment is jealousy's sneaky cousin, and how the Shame Triangle (inner persecutor, inner victim, inner rescuer) quietly shapes conflict—and how to transform it with practical tools rooted in IFS and restorative practices.

The convo hits real-life dynamics: ditching the "50/50" myth, navigating capacity and time (especially with kids), and why relationships thrive when both partners bring 100%—just not in the same way every day. Adam & Pris get candid about their own poly chapter, burnout, and finding balance, while Jessica & David share how their post-divorce collaboration became one of their healthiest partnerships.

Keywords: Jessica Fern, David Cooley, Polysecure, Polywise, Transforming the Shame Triangle, attachment theory, IFS therapy, ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, jealousy vs resentment, relationship repair, capacity, family dynamics, Beyond Monogamy podcast, Full Swap Radio.

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Show Notes

  • Attachment & IFS: How to spot when a part (not your core self) is driving reactivity—and how to respond with needs-based clarity.
  • Jealousy vs. Resentment: Resentment is the "check-engine light" for unmet needs or long-standing imbalances—don't villainize it, learn from it.
  • The 50/50 Myth: Healthy partnerships aren't perfectly split; they're capacity-aware and transparent about changing needs over time.
  • Polyamory + Parenting: Why time/energy constraints shift when kids are young—and how integrating partners into the family system can help.
  • The Shame Triangle: Inner persecutor ➝ inner victim (shame) ➝ inner rescuer/escapers (over/under-functioning, numbing, projection) and how to break the cycle.
  • Collaboration After Divorce: Jessica & David describe dissolving romance, rebuilding trust, and co-creating work that actually deepens harmony.

Favorite Moments

"Resentment is a really important signal—like a dashboard light. There's a need underneath it asking to be seen."
"Stop chasing 50/50. Bring your 100%—and expect your partner to bring theirs—in ways that ebb and flow with real capacity."
"The Shame Triangle links that inner critic, the shame it creates, and the 'escapes' we use to avoid feeling it. Naming it is the first step to changing it."Timestamps
  • 00:01 — Meet Jessica & David; books, backgrounds, collaboration
  • 16:00 — Sacredness, conditioning & rethinking mononormative scripts
  • 18:00 — Jealousy vs. resentment; needs, signals & repair
  • 22:00 — Ditching 50/50; capacity, boundaries, expectations
  • 29:00 — Poly + parenting; integrating partners into family systems
  • 44:00 — The Shame Triangle explained (persecutor, victim, rescuer/escapers)
  • 54:00 — Why feedback can trigger shame—and how to receive it better
  • 55:00 — Book release timing & event tour details

Support the Show

Love the conversation? Join our Patreon for early access, After Hours clips, bonus minis, Discord hangs, and more. Catch us on Full Swap Radio every Thursday at 1 PM & 6 PM CST.

Follow us: Facebook @BeyondMonogamy4U • Instagram @beyond_monogamy_4u • TikTok @beyond.monogamy & @adam&beyond • YouTube @BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris

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22 October 2025

QUICKIE: The Great Expectations

The Great Expectations

Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Episode Summary

In The Great Expectations, Adam & Pris get real about one of the trickiest parts of ethical non-monogamy: managing what you think is going to happen versus what actually happens. From club nights that don't go as planned to the pressure of "performing" in lifestyle settings, they unpack how expectations—ours, our partners', and everyone else's—shape attraction, confidence, and connection. This candid, funny, and raw conversation explores emotional intelligence, insecurity, chemistry, and the myth of having "no expectations." Spoiler: everyone has them, and that's human.

Whether you're new to swinging or deep into open relationship life, you'll leave with practical perspective: the fewer expectations you cling to, the more freedom (and fun) you'll find.

Show Notes

Topics Covered

  • The illusion of "no expectations" in the lifestyle
  • Why we still walk into clubs hoping for magic (and why it rarely plays out like a fantasy)
  • How unrealistic expectations can kill the vibe before the night even starts
  • Attraction vs. organic connection: letting chemistry lead
  • Emotional intelligence as a lifestyle superpower
  • Releasing insecurities and learning to care less (with age and experience)
  • "Podcaster expectations" vs. real-life anxiety and social energy
  • Expectations and performance pressure—why honest communication matters
  • Respect, boundaries, and the expectations partners set for each other

Featured Moments

  • Pris opens up about letting go and growing emotional maturity.
  • Adam talks about mental pressure, male performance, and speaking up instead of spiraling.
  • A funny play-by-play of how fantasy scripts fall apart in real life—and why that's okay.
  • A shared takeaway: try not to have expectations, but admit you always will—then choose flexibility over frustration.

Listen & Connect

Stream this episode on all major podcast platforms and catch us on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM CST.

Explore everything—blogs, videos, events, and our anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional—at www.beyond-monogamy.com.

Support the Show & Explore the Lifestyle

Join Our Patreon

Love the raw conversations and want more? Get early access, behind-the-mic clips, uncut moments, and member-only perks by joining our Patreon. Your support keeps the mics on and the real talk flowing.
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19 October 2025

This Kind of Girl: UK Writer Rosie Kay on Non-Monogamy, Bisexuality & Breaking Lifestyle Stereotypes

This Kind of Girl: UK Writer Rosie Kay on Non-Monogamy, Bisexuality & Breaking Lifestyle Stereotypes

Ethical Non-Monogamy Bisexuality Confidence & Consent Lifestyle Culture

Episode Summary

In this bold and beautifully honest episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we head across the pond to chat with UK writer, educator, and ethical non-monogamy coach Rosie Kay, the voice behind thiskindagirl.co.uk.

Rosie pulls back the curtain on what it really means to live ethically non-monogamous in today's world—far beyond the clichés of "swingers in suburbia." From discovering her bisexuality in her teens to finding freedom (and a few fears) in London's clubs, Rosie shares how she turned curiosity, courage, and COVID downtime into one of the UK's most refreshingly honest lifestyle blogs.

Together, we dive into bisexuality without shame, breaking stereotypes, emotional honesty and the art of giving consent even when you're not directly involved, plus the cultural contrasts between the UK and US lifestyle scenes. This one's for anyone navigating open relationships or the messy-beautiful reality of non-monogamy in 2025 and beyond.

Show Notes

Guest: Rosie Kay — thiskindagirl.co.uk

Key Topics Covered

  • Rosie's personal journey into non-monogamy & bisexuality
  • How This Kind of Girl started during COVID lockdown
  • UK vs. US lifestyle culture—what's changing and what's the same
  • The emotional side: jealousy, consent, self-awareness, and confidence
  • Breaking stereotypes: who actually participates in the lifestyle
  • Inclusivity, women's empowerment, and moving beyond shame

Best Quote

"Once you realize that other women aren't your competition, you'll have a much better life—not just a better sex life." — Rosie Kay

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